Quick story that I did say I would mention earlier in the thread:
I moved to the US because I met someone.
We had met several times (on his turf) before I moved here.
He met my family also. We had been invited to his home, work etc...no signs of him trying to "cover his tracks in any way."
6 weeks after my arrival, I discover that he has a GF of 20 years!!!!
Obviously, in my shock, anger and deep hurt I asked him why he hadnt told me.
He had selfishly (and wrongly) looked at the small picture of how telling me before moving here would affect our relationship.
I'm looking at the bigger picture of "How the hell did you think you were going to help me build a life here (as promised) when you have both a full time career AND a full time GF?" Of course he denied it and it wasn't until I pointed out that said woman had been stalking me that I realized she must be connected to him and he needed to come clean. Such drama and bullshit...all deriving from a lie!
So the point is, that a lie affects so much more than you might initially think.[/b]