Needing some advice...

[Lauren Summerhill]

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (Audra Baron @ Mar 29 2009, 09:17 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div>

Hello lovelies!

I am needing some serious advice about a special friend of mine who has been a long standing client.

Recently, this person has begun replacing my donations with gifts and has demanded and harrassed me for extra time, when he is not even meeting his standard financial obligation. I believe there are great things that can come from contractual relationships as they allow people to open up to a completely objective third party about their lives. However, this gentleman has crossed the boundaries of what I am able to provide and continues to push forward. I am receiving many emotional emails daily and am worried about how this will all play out.

My question is: How do you handle a friend who is not respecting the boundaries you so clearly set?

PM me for more info if you need it. Advice is greatly appreciated![/b]

The problem here is that you are insisting on "contract" not "life philosophy". If he has grown fond of you, discussing things in business terms will be insulting to him. These discussions can be had in a different aura. However, if he is unbalanced, no matter how you approach him, nothing will change.

Asides from attraction and financial comfort, the special ones need to be chosen based on psychological stability. There are always clues to such things. Be careful, things can turn ugly when an insecure man can&#39;t get what he wants on his terms. Treat him with kid gloves, but stand your ground. This could very well be about him wanting a sense of power, more than it is about you.

[Woody of TX]

<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE (Lauren Summerhill @ Mar 30 2009, 08:35 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}></div>

Be careful, things can turn ugly when an insecure man can&#39;t get what he wants on his terms.[/b]

I know that we are talking about a male in this topic...but I have seen the female gender in this same perspective. All based on the individual.