After saying she will be or assumed by me that she will because I saw her for a session, if a provider will not be a reference for me, I would hope that she would be respectful and tell me so that I do not use her for a reference anymore. I get that there are lots of providers that are used as stepping stones to see other providers and when they feel that or do references all day every day and not see anyone, I can see how that can be quite cumbersome and tiring.