Discussion on GFE

[mathguy]

Gfe - girlfriend for an hour!

I'm lots of guys girlfriend. I have great connections with many guys, I find the ones I have the best connection with are the guys that are humble and are a complete gentleman from first contact.

I also think chemestry plays a huge role in true gfe.

Bingo. Bang on! (no pun intended ). Another nicely worded quote.

[Parsifal]

My definition of GFE has changed over the years.....when I first started in the hobby,GFE meant certain activities were to be had in the session, and not much else. If the provider offered those activities that I was looking for, and I found her attractive/my type, I would book the session.

As I gained experience and ultimately self awareness about what I really like in the hobby , etc. the definition of GFE became much less literal.

Of course, I gravitate to the women that offer activities in our sessions that really get my motor running, but it's much more about the connection I feel in the session than any specific thing she offers, etc.

Some of my best sessions have been pretty tame in comparison to what I've experienced in the past, but the overwhelming feeling of connection was there. When I get that spark from the woman that I am seeing, like we are completely in sync with each other while we're together, it's amazing and intoxicating and THAT is what I consider true GFE.

It's also quite rare, so when I find it, I want to cultivate and nurture that arrangement to be as good as it can be.

As some women come in and out of my hobby life, GFE is a dynamic and constantly evolving definition for me.

[DragonX]

I think GFE is not a sum of activities but more of a mutual feeling. To me GFE is the lady is into me as much as I am into her. I have met some women that are beautiful and the whole shebang but I can tell it is just a "transaction" so to speak. I think it is the passion, genuine, not just IOP.
Cheers
D

[Austin Ellen]

Parsifal,
This is excellent. Your first sentence is spot on. The experience changes. I think the ones that are successful in this realize that the relationship evolves and like you said - you nurture and cultivate that arrangement. One of my clients that I have seen for years - we have the best time - but it's not a bunch of activities. We have vanilla sex and then snuggle cuddle, giggle and laugh. But......that man makes me tremble with excitement when he comes over because we have a connection.
Due to self awareness I found that GFE is what I enjoy most. My basic personality is nurturing and when I meet someone that I connect with and be honest with -- I definitely cultivate that arrangement. It doesn't get better then that in my book!!!!

My definition of GFE has changed over the years.....when I first started in the hobby,GFE meant certain activities were to be had in the session, and not much else. If the provider offered those activities that I was looking for, and I found her attractive/my type, I would book the session.

As I gained experience and ultimately self awareness about what I really like in the hobby , etc. the definition of GFE became much less literal.

Of course, I gravitate to the women that offer activities in our sessions that really get my motor running, but it's much more about the connection I feel in the session than any specific thing she offers, etc.

Some of my best sessions have been pretty tame in comparison to what I've experienced in the past, but the overwhelming feeling of connection was there. When I get that spark from the woman that I am seeing, like we are completely in sync with each other while we're together, it's amazing and intoxicating and THAT is what I consider true GFE.

It's also quite rare, so when I find it, I want to cultivate and nurture that arrangement to be as good as it can be.

As some women come in and out of my hobby life, GFE is a dynamic and constantly evolving definition for me.

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Most definitely!!

I think GFE is not a sum of activities but more of a mutual feeling. To me GFE is the lady is into me as much as I am into her. I have met some women that are beautiful and the whole shebang but I can tell it is just a "transaction" so to speak. I think it is the passion, genuine, not just IOP.
Cheers
D

[risn2theoccasion2]

Parsifal,
This is excellent. Your first sentence is spot on. The experience changes. I think the ones that are successful in this realize that the relationship evolves and like you said - you nurture and cultivate that arrangement. One of my clients that I have seen for years - we have the best time - but it's not a bunch of activities. We have vanilla sex and then snuggle cuddle, giggle and laugh. But......that man makes me tremble with excitement when he comes over because we have a connection.
Due to self awareness I found that GFE is what I enjoy most. My basic personality is nurturing and when I meet someone that I connect with and be honest with -- I definitely cultivate that arrangement. It doesn't get better then that in my book!!!!




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Most definitely!!

I can certainly say that what I wanted in my 30's is different than what I want in my 50's. In reading all these responses, it has made me realize that it is more of a chemistry and mental connection for me. If that happens between the lady and I, the activities will happen naturally.

[Woland]

I had one session with CrystalKitty, probably around 10 years ago, and it was great. I was sitting on the edge of the bed and she was on her knees about to go down on me when she says "That's beautiful." In by book that counts as GFE!

I had a couple of sessions with her, too. Perfection. Really miss her.

[knottyman]

I loved how she called her asshole her "2nd pussy"

[MarkWatney]

I'm old enough to remember a time when pay for play meant no kissing, no foreplay, and just get the cover on and pound away until you get your rocks off. No imitation of passion, it was just a business transaction.

It really didn't amount to much. It was better than nothing, but it was way too mechanical.

GFE changed everything. It was much more sensual, and there was kissing and foreplay. It may be pretending, but it's very good pretending. and that has made all of the difference.

Maybe it's different for us older guys, I don't know. GFE is not the same as an actual girlfriend and never will be. But it's pretty close, for an hour or so.

Sometimes that's all we need.

[risn2theoccasion2]

I'm old enough to remember a time when pay for play meant no kissing, no foreplay, and just get the cover on and pound away until you get your rocks off. No imitation of passion, it was just a business transaction.

It really didn't amount to much. It was better than nothing, but it was way too mechanical.

GFE changed everything. It was much more sensual, and there was kissing and foreplay. It may be pretending, but it's very good pretending. and that has made all of the difference.

Maybe it's different for us older guys, I don't know. GFE is not the same as an actual girlfriend and never will be. But it's pretty close, for an hour or so.

Sometimes that's all we need.

Bravo, Sir. I am old enough to remember those days as well. My first GF Experience was in the mid 80's. Everything you said here is spot on.

[Loxly]

I'm old enough to remember a time when pay for play meant no kissing, no foreplay, and just get the cover on and pound away until you get your rocks off. No imitation of passion, it was just a business transaction.

It really didn't amount to much. It was better than nothing, but it was way too mechanical.

GFE changed everything. It was much more sensual, and there was kissing and foreplay. It may be pretending, but it's very good pretending. and that has made all of the difference.

Maybe it's different for us older guys, I don't know. GFE is not the same as an actual girlfriend and never will be. But it's pretty close, for an hour or so.

Sometimes that's all we need.

Yup. I equate it to the 72 hr pass vs. 30 day leave.

[Agent220]

I prefer PSE. GFE in my mind is overrated. Skip the tenderness, I'm here for a fuckfest.

[AlexandraSand]

I prefer PSE. GFE in my mind is overrated. Skip the tenderness, I'm here for a fuckfest.

I am sure, when you are young, as you are, BANG is the only thing that you want to get.

Many of my 'older' friends and I, would say, that there is much more to sex, than just sex. Be patient, you will "get it" one day.

[Lovinglifeinaustin]

I am sure, when you are young, as you are, BANG is the only thing that you want to get.

Many of my 'older' friends and I, would say, that there is much more to sex, than just sex. Be patient, you will "get it" one day.

Amen! In my older mind, it’s PSE that’s overrated. I much prefer the GFE.

[Bettie_mae]

It does illustrate the point that GFE means something different to everyone.

if it means I get to get And Give passionate foreplay pretending to be your bestest girlfriend who just discovered you're my favorite pornstar
Giving me a go on the casting couch before fucking me in your next production like the fucking trollap I AM!....I choose Both!!!!.

[SirFuxAlot]

My opinion - Most providers who offer GFE, do their best to provide the experience but I think the chemistry between the two does not enable the experience to fully consummate...especially if it is the first meeting between the two. I believe for a true GFE to happen, it requires a certain comfort level that takes several visits, along with some before and after time. If you are just there for the action and don't invest in any real dialog, it is tough to achieve GFE level service. As for PSE, I agree above, way overrated.