Good intentions....

[The Water Company ~]

to eliminate the bs on self care days, turn off your cell or put it up out of sight completely. dont check it

[britttany_love]

to eliminate the bs on self care days, turn off your cell or put it up out of sight completely. dont check it

This +100000000

[Anna Nikkole]

Well it can be a on or off day. Regardless why I had my phone in my hand, was really to give a reference. But days I'm available, any day of the year.

Are these offers sincere, are they bs. I'd say 50/50. For the ones who are sincere, please take notice of things that are absolutely kind. Those that are, we already have the NO in our head to begin with.

[dodger]

I dunno. Sometimes a cuddle is just a cuddle. Or Good! Let me know if I can do anything for you. I wouldn’t say that to someone I had never met but some who’s company I have in the past? Yeah. Might just toss that in and if I did, it would be sincere.

[Sir Hardin Thicke]

to eliminate the bs on self care days, turn off your cell or put it up out of sight completely. dont check it

I couldn't agree more with The Water Company and brittany_love. Shut off the world as you see fit and take care of yourself.

[baja22]

I couldn't agree more with The Water Company and brittany_love. Shut off the world as you see fit and take care of yourself.

Yeah, seems disingenuous otherwise.

[Sue Nami]

DISINGENUOUS? You're not seeing the big picture. a note here, I have been on vacation for over a week and yet I am here and answering phone and emails because of REFERENCES to keep my fellow providers safe and working. I feel a responsibility to the women I share this hobby with to protect them and help them succeed and references are a key part of that. So it's mighty easy for the guys to say turn off the phone but they are not considering all the things we women do for this community besides answering the guy's call at all hours of the day and night. this is a community and we gals must help each other out. I have given out about 10 references in the last week I was "off" and on vacation. anything less would be endangering my sisters' safety and I can't do that.

[Transylvania Count]

I have given out about 10 references in the last week I was "off" and on vacation. anything less would be endangering my sisters' safety and I can't do that.

Imagine how much better the hobby would be if everyone did this!

[Tony.tron]

Imagine how much better the hobby would be if everyone did this!

+1

[baja22]

DISINGENUOUS? You're not seeing the big picture. a note here, I have been on vacation for over a week and yet I am here and answering phone and emails because of REFERENCES to keep my fellow providers safe and working. I feel a responsibility to the women I share this hobby with to protect them and help them succeed and references are a key part of that. So it's mighty easy for the guys to say turn off the phone but they are not considering all the things we women do for this community besides answering the guy's call at all hours of the day and night. this is a community and we gals must help each other out. I have given out about 10 references in the last week I was "off" and on vacation. anything less would be endangering my sisters' safety and I can't do that.

It's not just the guys saying turn off the phone. We've had 2 providers also share that opinion. References can wait, it's not an emergency. The only way to truly decompress is to turn off the phone and take a break. Providers do it all the time and I don't blame them one bit.

[Anna Nikkole]

Oh wow. Yes for a man you can offer companionship, cuddle etc etc and it be like oh hell ya. To a woman who fucks, to be complicated is to offer anything besides that. Women and men are different. However working women are different than civi women. In the show (Sky Rojo on Netflix *highly suggest), they explain, when a working girl is free the last thing she wants to do is fuck.

Why would a woman offer dinner dates, just to go eat for the price of a meal.

But for a man, anything can be solved with sex, and some women. But for a working woman it's showing her value.

I have a client I speak to offen, we may be each other's therapist. But cool person. There is no offer to come to me without compensation. I see a text, a $100 Starbucks card. So very thoughtful. So I open up more, show sexy pics etc. 2 weeks later another 100 Starbucks gift card after I gave a reference for him. It wasn't asked on each side.

Offering to come oil me down making your weenie hard, like someone said, it could be nice or taking advantage.

And someone who thinks because the lady is so far down to accept a appointment for a discount, I hope she gave that guy a shit session.

[Morgan Baby]

We really do care. When I take a week off I only semi turn my phone off. If I?m off a week then I?m checking my text at night to give the reference re quest. I feel responsible If I don?t give that reference to a lady for safety or the gent needing to get the clear go! If it?s a new client I try to at least apologize and say.. I?m off x days.

I took Monday off this week.. I have a few people check on me just because I didn’t place my Monday ad. My regular clients are so great! They check on me. My clients genuinely get worried about me if I don’t post or text during the week. They will ask, ” Are you ok Morgan” I?ve had those cuddle offers.. but for me if I take a day or two off it is because I need to not be touched and touching others.. That’s who I am.. but at certain moments.. I just need 24 hours of quiet..I excape and just sleep and relax. I bounce back fast.

It?s ok to do that.. You know, we don?t need to answer the phone Anna . We just feel responsible. That?s who we are. Givers.

[Slave Guinevere]

DISINGENUOUS? You're not seeing the big picture. a note here, I have been on vacation for over a week and yet I am here and answering phone and emails because of REFERENCES to keep my fellow providers safe and working. I feel a responsibility to the women I share this hobby with to protect them and help them succeed and references are a key part of that. So it's mighty easy for the guys to say turn off the phone but they are not considering all the things we women do for this community besides answering the guy's call at all hours of the day and night. this is a community and we gals must help each other out. I have given out about 10 references in the last week I was "off" and on vacation. anything less would be endangering my sisters' safety and I can't do that.

Mental Health Breaks in this world are important..

Setting designated work hours and allowing yourself to enjoy your vacation time will not end the hobby world as we know it...

Will people complain? Yes... But, you are human Sweetheart.. You are allowed to be sick, take time off and to turn off the world and walk away so, that you can come back refreshed.

Now, some people cannot do this,, and that is a choice...but that does not mean, that the people who have decided to prioritize their own personal lives as much as their professional lives are any less dedicated.. They have just decided to set boundaries..

Boundaries are not easy to set and keep.. Especially, in this world.. But to give at the level we do...on both sides... I think it is necessary...

I hired an assistant so, that I can step away and people can still get references but that isn't always an option for some people and some of my clients only want to speak to me... So again, they know that when I'm sick, with my family or at my real world job that they need to have patience...

Just find a way that works best for you Ms. Nikkole.. If you are happy then everything will work out...☺️

[Anna Nikkole]

Mental Health Breaks in this world are important..

Setting designated work hours and allowing yourself to enjoy your vacation time will not end the hobby world as we know it...

Will people complain? Yes... But, you are human Sweetheart.. You are allowed to be sick, take time off and to turn off the world and walk away so, that you can come back refreshed.

Now, some people cannot do this,, and that is a choice...but that does not mean, that the people who have decided to prioritize their own personal lives as much as their professional lives are any less dedicated.. They have just decided to set boundaries..

Boundaries are not easy to set and keep.. Especially, in this world.. But to give at the level we do...on both sides... I think it is necessary...

I hired an assistant so, that I can step away and people can still get references but that isn't always an option for some people and some of my clients only want to speak to me... So again, they know that when I'm sick, with my family or at my real world job that they need to have patience...

Just find a way that works best for you Ms. Nikkole.. If you are happy then everything will work out...☺️

Yes you are correct. To me if IB'm off and with family and off and not with family decide when I pick up my phone. I need to set more boundaries for myself, but if I'm not in front of my family I take a peek. But regardless day when I am working, who is someone to offer to cuddle or massage me. People pay me to do that to me. Who do they think they are? To me, they are trying to get over, and to me it pisses me off.

Like the guy I saw last month had a great time. Asked for a rate "for him". I simply asked, "who are you"? Like seriously. You just insulted me and I don't accept that from people I've seen many times. By time I was done with him, he didn't see me and I was fine I got meaningless apologies and I bet he doesn't do that to another working lady.

I don't mind being kind and friendly, I don't mind a text to check up on me. A friendly happy holidays on holiday time. But to ask to use my time, in which I would normally be compensated. It's a insult to me. I try to not take it as such, but it is.

If anyone thinks I need a massage send me a gift card to massage envy lol. Jk. Well no I'm not

[Slave Guinevere]

Yes you are correct. To me if IB'm off and with family and off and not with family decide when I pick up my phone. I need to set more boundaries for myself, but if I'm not in front of my family I take a peek. But regardless day when I am working, who is someone to offer to cuddle or massage me. People pay me to do that to me. Who do they think they are? To me, they are trying to get over, and to me it pisses me off.

Like the guy I saw last month had a great time. Asked for a rate "for him". I simply asked, "who are you"? Like seriously. You just insulted me and I don't accept that from people I've seen many times. By time I was done with him, he didn't see me and I was fine I got meaningless apologies and I bet he doesn't do that to another working lady.

I don't mind being kind and friendly, I don't mind a text to check up on me. A friendly happy holidays on holiday time. But to ask to use my time, in which I would normally be compensated. It's a insult to me. I try to not take it as such, but it is.

If anyone thinks I need a massage send me a gift card to massage envy lol. Jk. Well no I'm not

I certainly do not think that you need to apologize for your feelings Sweetheart...
Not at all...and, no one should ever try to negotiate your rates because of your sweet nature...that is not a kind thing to do at all..

I also understand where you are coming from when someone offers to give you a massage from this world because you have to keep your boundaries up and that is not VERY relaxing and in your downtime...that is what you need... A relaxing encounter...I've thought about getting one of those pod sessions where you are floating in the water? Have you seen those? Totally, different topic, but it is a touch free way to unwind and relax... and since, we are a very touchy group.. Maybe, not a bad try.. Idk... I am not a big fan of small spaces so, I'm intrigued but on the fence myself...lol 😂

Sending some kind thoughts and love your way and I hope that you have a great weekend and week Sweetheart..😊 😘