Ladies do you find it hard to find accepting vanilla men not in the hobby to date long term? at what point do you tell them of your "job". do you date clients? men, do you tell vanilla women you date that you hobby? at what point do you reveal this to them? do you date women who do this profession? to both sexes, do you just neglect to tell people you date about this side of your life and keep it a secret? when is it appropriate to tell someone? married is a whole other deal but if u care to reveal, do u tell your spouse or keep it a secret? did ask permission or just do it and tell the spouse later after the fact? it is hard to date and find romance when this hobby is in the mix.