So, I've been in the hobby for a while now. Sadly, I don't get out often due to real world constraints so I am constantly scrambling for references or to see the few ladies I've clicked with. I'd like to expand my pool of possibilities, but I also want what I want and I am shit at asking for it in person.

So, my question is this. How explicit should/can I get in messages? Is it better to stick with text or ask questions in PMs in the unlikely event that they are working. (Admittedly is has been better lately but not golding my breath on it staying that way.)

Long story short, I don't want to scare anyone off but I also don't want to walk away disappointed because my phobias get the better of me when I am face to face with a provider.