Good intentions....

[Anna Nikkole]

I take days sometimes for my own mental health, as most of us do. I get text, I may respond "taking a personal day off". I am being kind and polite. I'm a person, you are a person. I'm being kind sooo...

What does it help my mind if you say "wanna cuddle, I can make you feel better" or "I can come give you a massage"

Gentlemen this makes you look like a pos trying to take advantage and get lucky. If I'm taking a mental day, you show kindness hoping I will open my legs and more than likely for free. A mental day of not fucking doesn't mean for the same men to touch us. Maybe I'm weird.

If you aren't trying to get one over, buy me a gift card to massage envy and send it to me. That would be selfless, offering to spend the night and cuddle and bring me coffee in bed, bro, gtfooh. Send me a Starbucks gift card.

Am I wrong about this. Ladies what do you think? Is anyone sincere anymore?

[The Water Company ~]

to eliminate the bs on self care days, turn off your cell or put it up out of sight completely. dont check it

[britttany_love]

to eliminate the bs on self care days, turn off your cell or put it up out of sight completely. dont check it

This +100000000

[Anna Nikkole]

Well it can be a on or off day. Regardless why I had my phone in my hand, was really to give a reference. But days I'm available, any day of the year.

Are these offers sincere, are they bs. I'd say 50/50. For the ones who are sincere, please take notice of things that are absolutely kind. Those that are, we already have the NO in our head to begin with.

[dodger]

I dunno. Sometimes a cuddle is just a cuddle. Or Good! Let me know if I can do anything for you. I wouldn’t say that to someone I had never met but some who’s company I have in the past? Yeah. Might just toss that in and if I did, it would be sincere.

[Sir Hardin Thicke]

to eliminate the bs on self care days, turn off your cell or put it up out of sight completely. dont check it

I couldn't agree more with The Water Company and brittany_love. Shut off the world as you see fit and take care of yourself.

[baja22]

I couldn't agree more with The Water Company and brittany_love. Shut off the world as you see fit and take care of yourself.

Yeah, seems disingenuous otherwise.

[Sue Nami]

DISINGENUOUS? You're not seeing the big picture. a note here, I have been on vacation for over a week and yet I am here and answering phone and emails because of REFERENCES to keep my fellow providers safe and working. I feel a responsibility to the women I share this hobby with to protect them and help them succeed and references are a key part of that. So it's mighty easy for the guys to say turn off the phone but they are not considering all the things we women do for this community besides answering the guy's call at all hours of the day and night. this is a community and we gals must help each other out. I have given out about 10 references in the last week I was "off" and on vacation. anything less would be endangering my sisters' safety and I can't do that.

[Transylvania Count]

I have given out about 10 references in the last week I was "off" and on vacation. anything less would be endangering my sisters' safety and I can't do that.

Imagine how much better the hobby would be if everyone did this!

[baja22]

DISINGENUOUS? You're not seeing the big picture. a note here, I have been on vacation for over a week and yet I am here and answering phone and emails because of REFERENCES to keep my fellow providers safe and working. I feel a responsibility to the women I share this hobby with to protect them and help them succeed and references are a key part of that. So it's mighty easy for the guys to say turn off the phone but they are not considering all the things we women do for this community besides answering the guy's call at all hours of the day and night. this is a community and we gals must help each other out. I have given out about 10 references in the last week I was "off" and on vacation. anything less would be endangering my sisters' safety and I can't do that.

It's not just the guys saying turn off the phone. We've had 2 providers also share that opinion. References can wait, it's not an emergency. The only way to truly decompress is to turn off the phone and take a break. Providers do it all the time and I don't blame them one bit.

[Slave Guinevere]

DISINGENUOUS? You're not seeing the big picture. a note here, I have been on vacation for over a week and yet I am here and answering phone and emails because of REFERENCES to keep my fellow providers safe and working. I feel a responsibility to the women I share this hobby with to protect them and help them succeed and references are a key part of that. So it's mighty easy for the guys to say turn off the phone but they are not considering all the things we women do for this community besides answering the guy's call at all hours of the day and night. this is a community and we gals must help each other out. I have given out about 10 references in the last week I was "off" and on vacation. anything less would be endangering my sisters' safety and I can't do that.

Mental Health Breaks in this world are important..

Setting designated work hours and allowing yourself to enjoy your vacation time will not end the hobby world as we know it...

Will people complain? Yes... But, you are human Sweetheart.. You are allowed to be sick, take time off and to turn off the world and walk away so, that you can come back refreshed.

Now, some people cannot do this,, and that is a choice...but that does not mean, that the people who have decided to prioritize their own personal lives as much as their professional lives are any less dedicated.. They have just decided to set boundaries..

Boundaries are not easy to set and keep.. Especially, in this world.. But to give at the level we do...on both sides... I think it is necessary...

I hired an assistant so, that I can step away and people can still get references but that isn't always an option for some people and some of my clients only want to speak to me... So again, they know that when I'm sick, with my family or at my real world job that they need to have patience...

Just find a way that works best for you Ms. Nikkole.. If you are happy then everything will work out...☺️

[Tony.tron]

This is probably just a great example of how different men and women behave and think. Most of us men speak the physical touch love language. Especially us hobbyists who are here seeking that connection. It leads me to believe that their offers are sincere because that is how we would like our mental day to be made better. Your love language seems to be more on the side of acts of kindness/service (I may be way off, but that's what I gather from your post). I don't see anything wrong with you replying that you are taking a day off. I think that should be respected and understood. I much rather you saying that, than simply blowing off the text. It shows that you are a good communicator. But I don't think guys are trying to take advantage of you, or being insensitive. We just think differently and think it would be a good solution to the issue. Ask any guy, a good lay fixes any problem.

[SexySammy]

This is probably just a great example of how different men and women behave and think. Most of us men speak the physical touch love language. Especially us hobbyists who are here seeking that connection. It leads me to believe that their offers are sincere because that is how we would like our mental day to be made better. Your love language seems to be more on the side of acts of kindness/service (I may be way off, but that's what I gather from your post). I don't see anything wrong with you replying that you are taking a day off. I think that should be respected and understood. I much rather you saying that, than simply blowing off the text. It shows that you are a good communicator. But I don't think guys are trying to take advantage of you, or being insensitive. We just think differently and think it would be a good solution to the issue. Ask any guy, a good lay fixes any problem.

A good lay may fix YOUR problems, but it doesn't work the same way with others. Especially women in this industry being touched constantly.
You also assume most men think like you, when in most of ours experience, it's the total opposite and they are indeed hinting at free play. Hell I had someone booked the other day who tried to offer to come earlier to "snuggle" beforehand, and when he was inevitably shut down, magically wound up canceling because a meeting had been moved later, so I offered for him to come earlier like he had just offered to do when he wanted to snuggle and NADA. Some men think that just because they're a decent lay or "attractive" it means we will do things for free and that's just not how this works.

[Tony.tron]

A good lay may fix YOUR problems, but it doesn't work the same way with others. Especially women in this industry being touched constantly.

That's exactly my point. That many men can view it as a legitimate solution when in fact it may not be one. Especially in the eyes of women.

I would hope that some understand that even in a generalization, nothing is absolute. I am 100% sure some of the guys don't have pure intentions. And IMO as much as we like cuddling too, the dudes you mentioned fall under the expectation and not the rule.

Yes I do assume that men think like me (in general) but not all. And I definitely believe they think more like me than like you. Way to add another thread into your "you're wrong, I'm right" list. This was meant as friendly conversation, and we all know you love to throw grenades into many of them. But smh chill out a bit.

[maxwell543]

That's exactly my point. That many men can view it as a legitimate solution when in fact it may not be one. Especially in the eyes of women.

I would hope that some understand that even in a generalization, nothing is absolute. I am 100% sure some of the guys don't have pure intentions. And IMO as much as we like cuddling too, the dudes you mentioned fall under the expectation and not the rule.

Yes I do assume that men think like me (in general) but not all. And I definitely believe they think more like me than like you. Way to add another thread into your "you're wrong, I'm right" list. This was meant as friendly conversation, and we all know you love to throw grenades into many of them. But smh chill out a bit.

Sammy was not being confrontational nor disrespectful. No need for you to inject negativity because you get triggered over a post. Please keep it civil.
Most mongers do try and get more n more. Offering good intentions is mostly an angle being played by mongers. These ladies don't want to mix biz with their rw. Respect that