There are a multitude of reasons we hobby, some men can’t get laid…some men can get laid but prefer to skip the dating part of having sex. Me personally I’m not in a place to really deeply entertain women in a sense of traditional dating. Hobbying bypasses a lot of problems people experience in dating. Also in my experience women in the hobby may be willing to do something strange for some change…your GF or wife may not…also sex is a big manipulation tool when your dating.