Hmmmm....I think it's a tad different to that WTF.
I think it's more about whether the lie makes them appear to be a bully or a coward that shapes our thoughts of them.
Quick story that I did say I would mention earlier in the thread:
I moved to the US because I met someone.
We had met several times (on his turf) before I moved here.
He met my family also. We had been invited to his home, work etc...no signs of him trying to "cover his tracks in any way."
6 weeks after my arrival, I discover that he has a GF of 20 years!!!!
Obviously, in my shock, anger and deep hurt I asked him why he hadnt told me.
He had selfishly (and wrongly) looked at the small picture of how telling me before moving here would affect our relationship.
I'm looking at the bigger picture of "How the hell did you think you were going to help me build a life here (as promised) when you have both a full time career AND a full time GF?" Of course he denied it and it wasn't until I pointed out that said woman had been stalking me that I realized she must be connected to him and he needed to come clean. Such drama and bullshit...all deriving from a lie!
So the point is, that a lie affects so much more than you might initially think.
Usually when someone is telling a lie they are looking at a much smaller picture than the one being deceived looks at.
You are right though, we all lie, but lying when confronted (as he did) is insulting and well...lots of other things that I can't put into words right now
I would have had a lot more respect for him had he come clean...and yes, I might have still moved here.
Men are from Mars, women are from Venus though my male friends (in the UK) tell me my thought process is much more Mars than Venus which they say confuses men who are programmed to read between the lines and try and figure women out. :blink: <----I love that face lol.
Happy Sunday all!!!!!!!![/b]